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Go where you are Valued

They said - Go where you are valued, so I ran back to God. Why did I run back to God and not towards God?  God knew me since I was in the womb of my mother. When I came into this world , I met different people since my birth.  My mother, father, brother, friends , relatives, classmates, colleagues, neighbors, spouse.  But, do all of them value me? No! I didn't come across even one person in my life who gave value to me.  When I felt that, I had to run back to God who knew me. The only one God who valued me.  I had to run back to Him.  Go where you are valued!
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Being Judgmental!


Being Judgmental!
What do you mean by being judgmental?  It’s nothing but, finding faults. We human beings find it very easy to find faults of others. It all begins from the family and the society we live in.  In a family, it’s the husband being judgmental on wife and vice-versa and Parents being judgmental on their children and vice-versa. This reminds me of a scene from the Bollywood movie “English Vinglish”, where Sridevi doesn’t know to speak English and her husband and children make fun of her. She then tries to learn English by joining a coaching center and by watching Hollywood movies, she tries to catch some words in the dialogue conversation which is nothing but ”Why you are being so judgmental”  and finds out the meaning of it from her niece. In the end, she delivers a beautiful speech in English at her niece’s wedding saying “Never be judgmental”.

Now, how many of us have made fun like this of our mother who couldn’t speak English properly? Or our parents who still don’t know to use a Smartphone properly. I still get angry and shout when my mother asks me how to use it. Look at my English in this article, I know there are so many grammatical mistakes and I still make fun of my mother. But, then do we even realize how much patience they would have had when we were kids and they tried to teach us many things. It’s just a life cycle, when they get old they become like kids. Even we will go through this phase for sure.
In a family, especially for married women, the so called in-laws will be judgmental. I wonder why they are called “in-laws”. Maybe, they create the laws.  And, why their laws are applicable only to their daughter-in-law and not their son or daughter? Maybe, “in-law” is being tagged only to daughter-in-law and their law is applicable only to her!  What kind of law is this? For e.g. If a daughter-in-law wakes up late in the morning, then she has violated their law! The first judgment they do. But, if their son or daughter wakes up late, then they think they are tired. Why being judgmental only to daughter-in-law then? They can become good testers by profession; they can never be a judge since they are partial. They know only to find faults of others but not theirs. Why being judgmental?


That’s all about family being judgmental. Now, let’s see how the society is being judgmental. First and foremost they judge people by their looks. The way they dress. If they are wearing branded dress then they are high class, if normally dressed then they are middle class else they are low-class. Who are these people to judge?  There is a saying “Never judge a book by its cover” Roger that!
Next, today’s society is more worried about others family life than their own family. If a girl is still not married after 24 or 25 (age bar according to the so called society). Then, she must be having some affair or she is stubborn or she is so and so whatever the society judges. If a guy doesn’t have job then he is not worthy, a burden, blah blah according to them. If married couple doesn’t have kids, then they blame the girl and judge her. If he/she is a divorcee, then gone, they look at them as if they have committed some crime. Who these people are? What do they think of themselves? Mr/Ms/Mrs. Perfect? Only thing I would like to say to these people is “Mind your own business”. Let’s mind our own business, our own family, correct our faults instead of finding other’s faults. 

Never be judgmental!                                              - 

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